CareforChild

Care for Child-a poem

2006-05-31T14:10:00.001+09:00

It’s an amazing thing to take care of a Child.
To have a Child trust you.
That makes me feel I have a purpose.
I didn’t know what I would be like as a parent.
I learnt that I love being a parent.
If the Child is okay,
If he is healthy, Nothing else matters to me.

If you hugged your child today, chances are it’s due to Dr. Spock

2006-05-28T15:54:00.000+09:00

Dr. Spock’s Baby Book, has been dog-eared by so many million parents it is hard to imagine it wasn’t always at hand to inform and reassure. Yet it was only in the post-World War II baby boom, that it first appeared. At a time when young families were sprouting everywhere, mostly removed from older generation s and traditional approaches to child rearing. For such a gentle and informative manual, the book was nearly revolutionary: it held that a baby was a person too, with a need for affection and understanding. Necessary discipline will follow. For his insight the Doctor was condemned. That charge is heard no more. Instead he is viewed as the father of us all.

His famous line to parents,"You know more than you think you do.” was in a way very reassuring to the new parents. The theme, that new parents are fully up to the task at hand, that successful parenting is , above all, a matter of relaxing and trusting one’s instinct would alone have been enough to set the book apart from its grim predecessors; so , too the work’s extraordinary thoroughness in covering the physical and behavioral problems common to small children.

How my child studies and does his homework ….

2005-11-22T19:49:00.000+09:00

I hope everyone has started to settle into the back to school routine. I know one of the things here that I have had to adjust to and think about, as a parent , how my child studies and does his homework. It has been difficult to establish one set routine. This brings me to some things you could consider when establishing good study habits. I believe that the primary goal is that you and your child find the best way for your child to do their best. Sounds pretty straightforward, but it is not always that easy. One thing to consider is your family routine. .In our home, our list of activities includes craft, Boy Scouts, and some other activities! My son loves having some ”downtime” when he comes home from school, but because of our schedule, this is very limited to nonexistent, say around an hour. After this he settles down with his studies. I let him concentrate on his studies without any distraction. It is not the number of hours , rather than the quality of time he spends on his work. I make sure that this is well used. I do not force him to continue if I feel that he has finished his work. This , I believe will develop in him the intention to finish his work properly , rather than sitting with his books idealy, killing time

Writing for Children…. has become a challenge

2005-10-29T00:25:00.000+09:00

Writing for Children is an increasingly intrusive visual world has become a challenge. And soothsayers in the entertainment industry predict more video vis-à-vis the written word in the decades to come. So perhaps the themes of childhood, rites of passage, friendship between child, and beast, aliens, fantastical creatures, and spirits-have to be handled differently, particularly with a post Harry Potter generation of young readers in mind.

It is here that Richard Scarry comes in. Scarry revealed to children the secrets of everyday life. His worlds were easily understood, populated by polite, well-mannered animals with a keen eye for absurd human behavior. His characters are almost always animals portrayed in human activities, and wearing human clothes. His most famous series of books was about Busytown. Using animals in place of humans allowed Scarry to avoid giving the characters specific racial or ethnic traits, which may have helped broaden their appeal. Fun seems to be the key to Scarry's works. Not only should the work be fun for the author and the child, but "It is also more fun for the parent, teacher, or babysitter, who has to read and reread these books over and over. I try to put as much fun and action as possible into each book so that the reader may find something new each time it is read."said Scarry himself.With sparse text, his stories are a visual experience.

In 1963 Scarry made his breakthrough with Best World Book Ever.
The large-format book, with more than 1 400 objects identified with labels, sold seven million copies in twelve years. My son grew up with it. The book was larger than him and he used to sit on top of the book to peer on to the animal characters and learn different words related to activities.

Scarry himself bumbled his way through a charmed life of good luck and fortunate circumstance, pretty much doing whatever he liked until the day he died. He wrote and illustrated over three hundred major picture books for children, each one dense with slapstick and visual humor. More than three hundred million copies of his work have exchanged hands, some of which were translated into thirty languages. This qualifies him to be the most popular children's book author of all time.

It can be argued there are two types of people: those who grew up reading Richard Scarry, and those who remain perpetually maladjusted to society.

Children's Emotional Intelligence

2005-10-27T10:45:00.000+09:00

Children with a high Emotional Intelligence (EQ) are more successful in life, says Dr Kenneth Lyen
“Emotional intelligence is as important, if not more so, than IQ”,
He said that there are many fields a child is likely to excel in, including:
Abilities with the use of words
Mathematical abilities and pattern recognition
Thinking visually and artistic skills
Music and rhythm skills
Physical abilities
Social skills
Understanding one's innermost thoughts and feelings

It is up to the parent to understand his child’s prowess and encourage him. If you observe your child closely, you will know what he is interested in and what he is good at. He focussed on emotional intelligence and said that children with emotional intelligence tend to succeed in life; academic brilliance alone does not guarantee success. “Those with high IQ levels may be selected for interviews, but those with a high level of emotional intelligence are most likely to be selected for jobs,” said Dr Lyen.
How do you know if your child has emotional intelligence? He has a good EQ (emotional quotient) if If your child is very popular If your child has self-control If your child is adaptable and friendly If your child is persistent If your child can empathise You can teach your child how to make friends, overcome failures and succeed in life. How can you raise your child’s EQ?

Encourage him to care for others
Teach him the importance of being honest
Teach him to apologise for his mistakes
Teach him to approach problems optimistically
Praise him for good deeds
Participate in all that he does
Don’t be too bossy
“Emotional intelligence is more important than IQ levels because IQ cannot be changed, whereas EQ can be enhanced,” said Dr Lyen.
Yes, that is Dr. Kenneth Lyen, if you are wandering. Other than being a pediatrician, he also plays the violin at leisure

The greatest evil that can happen to a Child ...for the Child to think bad of oneself….

2005-10-26T06:15:00.000+09:00

Of all the beliefs and judgment that a child has, none is more important than the ones he has of self. . This belief is the single most telling factors in determining the success and failure in life. Although many believe that –talent, opportunity, money, high level of intelligence, families and positive attitudes are the predictors of success in life. Actually these are secondary to a healthy positive self-image. A child’s Self-image is the direct result of the reinforcement that he or she receives from you, on a daily basis. Hence the question to ask is, “ What does the children really think of themselves?” And perhaps NOT what we think of them.

Often we parents, create the barriers. Thus the lack of love in a person’s life is the internal fear that a child does not deserve it.
The absence of happiness may stem from the internal belief that “Happiness is not my destiny”.

Hence the task of motivating children to have greater aspirations is all about working on their self-portraits.
When a child grows up to love himself, to be self confident, to have a high self esteem and to respect himself , he will not be let down by failure , will respect others and will have lots of love and not hatred for the others.

This is not a modern day dictum ....it has been there through the ages.
That is why the great philosopher Goethe said:
“The greatest evil that can befall a man is that he should come to think ill of himself”

The view of a Child of himself is the most important thing…

2005-10-25T10:00:00.000+09:00

A child’s self image is the most important factor to happiness and fulfillment. Children, who believe that the world is a good and miraculous place, and they are special and loved, have a tremendous advantage over children who are doubting and negative. Those with positive self-image are eager to meet new people and opportunities, they are not judgmental or intimidated by others, and they enjoy challenges and are loving, open and generous towards others. By way of contrast, children with low self-image, are constantly seeking approval, and are full of self-doubt and fear others, and feel insecure. They are often dependent and prejudiced, unable to give love away because they have none within themselves to give.

How we lower Self-worth & Confidence in Children

2005-10-23T05:29:00.000+09:00

Here are 10 ways to bring down the level of confidence of our children

Telling the Child that they are bad.

Refusing to give children responsibility

Constantly catching children doing wrong.
Treating children as something, not really Human.

Using unpleasant names lowers the self-regard of Children
Telling the Child that they are Good , only when they behave properly.

Treating children as a one whole BIG unit, rather than as an individual

Talking about your Children, in front of them , as if they weren’t there.

Keeping a distance from children, refusing to kiss, touch, hold, and play with them

Criticizing your children when they make mistake, instead of speaking to them to correct them

Here are 10 ways to communicate with your child to show that you care..

2005-10-16T12:14:00.000+09:00

1. Pack a small note in your child’s Tiffin box to express your love

2. Send the child a written letter, yes by snail mail ..in an envelope signed ,sealed and stamped. Children love to receive mails.

3. Send flowers to your child on Birthdays. No ..not handing over in the house. It should reach from a florist, through a messenger. The child will get the message that you care and that you want to express it.

4. If you are leaving the house when the child is sleeping, leave a note for him to read when he wakes up … it cockles their hearts.

5. Buy small cards..with motifs of flowers , pups, kites, Mickey etc.. send them to your child in regular intervals with messages of appreciation. Small things, which the child had done to make your day.

6 Open an e-mail and send mails at regular intervals. Children love to receive pic. Small cartoon characters and particularly the ones they love..Pokemon for example.

7. If the child has forgotten something to carry to school, like a piece of Craft , reach it to the school , with a letter addressed to him , saying that you felt this is important for him and he had missed it in the morning.

8. When the child brings home a Certificate give it enough attention, then frame it and hang it somewhere important in the house for all to see.

9. Frame some of your child’s drawings, paintings and hang them in the house , maybe be with a masterpiece ..see the child glowing.

10. Above all ,communicate verbally , of your love to your child . This increases the child’s self esteem.

A person who taught the children to learn-Dr.Seuss

2005-10-07T17:09:00.000+09:00

A person's a person, no matter how small," Theodor Geisel, a.k.a. Dr. Seuss, would say. "Children want the same things we want. To laugh, to be challenged, to be entertained and delighted."Brilliant, playful, and always respectful of children, Dr. Seuss charmed his way into the consciousness of four generations of youngsters and parents. In the process, he helped millions of kids learn to read.Dr. Seuss was born Theodor Geisel in Springfield, Massachusetts, on March 2, 1904. After graduating from Dartmouth College in 1925, he went to Oxford University, intending to acquire a doctorate in literature. At Oxford, Geisel met Helen Palmer, whom he wed in 1927. Upon his return to America later that year, Geisel published cartoons and humorous articles for Judge, the leading humor magazine in America at the time. His cartoons also appeared in major magazines such as Life, Vanity Fair, and Liberty. Geisel gained national exposure when he won an advertising contract for an insecticide called Flit. He coined the phrase, "Quick, Henry, the Flit!" which became a popular expression.Geisel developed the idea for his first children's book in 1936 while on a vacation cruise. The rhythm of the ship's engine drove the cadence to And to Think That I Saw It on Mulberry Street.During World War II, Geisel joined the Army and was sent to Hollywood where he wrote documentaries for the military. During this time, he also created a cartoon called Gerald McBoing-Boing which won him an Oscar.

The Cat in the Hat is born in May of 1954, Life published a report on illiteracy among schoolchildren, suggesting that children were having trouble reading because their books were boring. This problem inspired Geisel's publisher, prompting him to send Geisel a list of 400 words he felt were important for children to learn. The publisher asked Geisel to cut the list to 250 words and use them to write an entertaining children's book. Nine months later, Geisel, using 220 of the words given to him, published The Cat in the Hat, which brought instant success.Winner of the Pulitzer Prize in 1984 and three Academy Awards, Geisel authored and illustrated 44 children's books. His enchanting stories are available as audiocassettes, animated television specials, and videos.While Theodor Geisel died on September 24, 1991, Dr. Seuss lives on, inspiring generations of children of all ages to explore the joys of reading.

Our Child is Precious to Us

2005-09-27T14:16:00.000+09:00

We sometime forget that our children is precious to us and we need to express our feelings for them ..yes sometimes openly.Here is a photograph of my son Abhishek ...he is 10 and a wizard in computers.
He loves play acting ,scouting,and recitation , not necessarily in that order. Currently very involved with games of Bley Blades , taken from Pokemon( I undersatand its a craze world wide. He has also invented , along with his school friends, a game titled 'pen-fights'. A game where you and your friend are engaged in a battle of pens. Understand that it started in the class room , when the teacher was away and has found much wider field and audience. (You can just imagine my plight,pen-stained clothes, battle muted pens etall...any body can throw some light on this?)

Careforchild can be Expressed Differenly.

2005-09-27T14:12:00.000+09:00

Monkey Dancing: A Father, Two Kids, and Journey to the Ends of the Earth .A suddenly single father — and nationally known environmental reporter — takes his children on a world tour of some of the world's rare and endangered life forms while reckoning with loss, change, and the challenges of parenting in this frank, funny, moving memoir.
After the death of his brother and the sudden end of his marriage, and after his ex-wife moved to another state leaving him alone with their two young children, Dan Glick embarked on single fatherhood in an unusual way: he took his kids on a journey around the world. The idea was to go see some of the world's rare life forms before they disappeared from the planet, and to do it before the kids themselves would grow up and chart their own paths.
In the summer of 2001 Dan, Zoe, and Kolya took off from Colorado for a six-month journey on which they would see the Great Barrier Reef in Australia, the orangutans of Borneo, Javan Rhinos in Vietnam, the tigers of Nepal, and more. Meeting countless challenges — emotional, logistical and physical — the threesome shared experiences they could not have imagined and would not soon forget. Glick weaves accounts of their encounters with the natural world — and each other — with intimate reflections on his own reckoning with loss, change, and fatherhood, illuminating the commonalities between our relationships with each other, and our relationship with the earth we inhabit. For anyone who dreams of travelling to the world's most exotic places, for anyone already navigating that wild journey called parenting, Monkey Dancing is by turns fascinating, funny, and wise...